I’m a truth seeking, eternally curious introvert who enjoys nothing more than being in nature or curled up at home with a book (non-fiction for the win over here!). I’m a multi-passionate, creative being and my life is guided by vulnerability, openness and gratitude. I’m obsessed with emotions and love helping others embrace their shadows and step into their power.
I’m also a Certified Health Coach, Emotional Expert, Co-Founder of Zura Health, Podcast Host, Speaker and Writer.
My work helps women understand the deep and profound impact their family system, social conditioning and culture have had on their beliefs and how they show up in the world. I help women identify how these things have created a division between them and their true sense of self - because trust me, whether you realize it or not, this conditioning has had a profound impact on your life. I refer to it as the feminine wound.
Female inferiority (or, the feminine wound) is the pain that comes as a result of being a woman. Otherwise known as intergenerational wounding, it is passed down through generations of women within patriarchal cultures. It has us believe that, as women, we are:
Not good enough
Not attractive enough
Sadly, the list goes on and on.
Learning about female inferiority was instrumental in helping me unpack and heal my wounds, step into my worth and become the empowered woman I am today.
Shame related to things like divorce and infertility
Being the “good” girl/woman/daughter/wife
Tolerating toxic behavior from others
Playing small and not “rocking the boat" in order to be loved
A poor relationship with self
Comparison and competition with other women
Feeling guilty for having desires and goals
Experiencing things like eating disorders, depression and addictions.
I grew up as the first born (only by 15 minutes to my twin sister but boy, did I take on this role!) in my family. I felt the pressure to be extremely responsible in my role as the older sibling and as such, fully embraced the labels of “caretaker”, “big sister” and the “good daughter”. Committed to being the “model eldest”, and never wanting to upset anyone within my family unit, I quickly became a people pleasing perfectionist.
I didn’t speak up when I disagreed with things.
I didn’t do anything that might cause disharmony. I didn’t embrace my independent streak. I didn’t rebel.
Although this was pleasant for everyone around me, holding all of my emotions inside, not expressing my truth, and interacting with the world in this repressed and conforming way, simply because it was expected of me, got damn tiring.
I first had to work in jobs that were completely unfulfilling and soul-sucking. These “shadow” jobs distracted me from my life’s purpose.
I had to end up in a marriage that, despite there being a lot of love, I see in hindsight was used as a safety net because I was lost in life, wanting to avoid becoming an adult and scared of standing on my own two feet.
I had to reach a place of depression and desperation that was a consequence of being in a relationship and living a life that was not connected to my truest and deepest sense of self.
I had to question what my purpose in this life was, and where I fit in.
I got clear on who I, Kylie was, and separated it from who my family, the media, the education system, religious institutions and society generally, told me to be.
I got a divorce (which brought with it a lot of shame because apparently, ‘good’ girls don’t leave marriages?!)
I got courageous and made a commitment to learn how to stand tall on my own two feet financially before entering into my next relationship.
But enough was enough.
I began to wake up.
I made peace with, and healed my wounds.
I stood in my worth.
I embodied my feminine power.
I began to say ‘no’.
And with that, my life completely transformed.
I’m now committed to helping women do this work and look deep into the roots of their being with love, compassion and radical acceptance.
That is what this online sanctuary is here to do - hold space for you as you transition and transform, remind you of your intrinsic worth and inspire you to say a whole-hearted ‘YES!’ to your deepest desires.